If a masculine man wears feminine clothes, does he change gender or does the outfit?

Scooting through 500 years of British male fashion in search of a reason why men shouldn’t wear lace pants. Social conventions are so powerful, it’s easy to see why most people just accept them, thinking something’s wrong when they don’t fit the expected gender box. Yet it’s all rubbish. Gender varies hugely by country, tradition and by era; this proves it isn’t some kind of natural law. It’s simply that we are taught our culture’s gender rules from the moment we’re born.

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When I was a little girl – I was a little boy

I envied the way boys could pee up walls and really felt as if I was lacking. I tried to pee standing up. Being a boy meant strength, adventure, toughness and vigour; I felt trapped and imprisoned as a girl … Growing up meant loss of freedom, although at twelve I could not articulate that. As my body began changing, I felt a sense of wonder: a deep, but unexpressed, pride and excitement about my maturing female body. Where was the little boy of not long ago?

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Defending abusers helps no-one

Alan Carr doubtless feels he’s being loyal to old friend Justin Lee Collins, who was convicted of domestic abuse. Very often the abuser, the person using violence or emotional abuse to batter their partner, uses friends as part of his armoury. They provide a convenient smokescreen behind which to hide the abuser’s true nature. Women’s Aid reports 2 women a week are murdered by their partners in the UK. Police receive a domestic abuse call every 30 seconds.

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