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You are here: Home / Toilets & Changing rooms / A mother’s account of why mixed-sex toilets don’t work for women and girls

A mother’s account of why mixed-sex toilets don’t work for women and girls

1st June 2019 by GUEST AUTHOR

There was a fantastic restaurant I used to go to. They had mixed-sex toilets.

They had separate, enclosed cubicles each labelled with an icon of either male or female. Each had a small sink in the cubicle so it was only a shared corridor.

However this doesn’t stop groups of rowdy drunken men being leery or grabby or flashing themselves as they don’t bother to walk into the cubicles before getting their cocks out.

Y’see the problem with these mixed toilets wasn’t that transwomen were using them, it was that drunk horny entitled male hipsters were using them without consideration for other users, in particular families. They didn’t stick to the men’s cubicles either.

One day, my 9 year old left her cubicle early while I was still sorting myself out. When we entered the toilets were empty but when we exited there was a stag do queuing up to take a slash.

She was flashed at by a guy who couldn’t wait to get his cock out in the cubicle and propositioned by another.

I got angry but she was terrified so we had to try to leave quickly. I had five drunken men get aggressive with me for defending my 9 yr old from this guy’s drunken advances.

Safety was my prime concern. Five drunken stags blocking mine and my daughter’s exit in a tiny  corridor in a mixed toilet. Only one voiced reason and tried to help us out but the guy who propositioned my now crying daughter pinched her arse as we left and laughed.

Staff justified their behaviour as “boys will be boys” and it’s just a stag do no harm done and police weren’t interested (how can we find a drunken man in a big city).

My once confident 9 year old now needs to be taken to the toilet by a parent and she’s scared. You see the fear of gender neutral toilets isn’t just fear or denial of someone who thinks they’re a woman, it’s entitled men who think they’ve a right to grope at 9 year olds.

Guest post by @nonmanfryingpan (twitter)

 

Filed Under: Children, Guest posts, Male violence, Toilets & Changing rooms

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